HOW NOT TO FALL IN LOVE - Treasure Your 'Myspace'

Hi guys! I know it's been a while since I blogged…it's due to very personal reasons I may share with you in the near future. But anyway, I'm back and have got a lot of great stuff to share, starting with a 5-part series on 'How not to fall in love'. This is part 1 of 5. Hope you enjoy it, comment and share…God bless!

Most times we hear teachings about how to fall in love, tips on knowing when you're in love and steps to knowing when you've found 'the one'. Interestingly, there is a flip side to this and despite it being just as important, it is not very often the topic of conversations. How not to fall in love is probably something everyone should know, whether single or married (because married people sometimes fall in love with someone else outside their marriage and this could lead to seperation and divorce!).

Some of us have the 'gift' of falling in love too quickly. Some are always on the rebound only to get constantly hurt again and again. The following short and 'sweet' tips are by no means an exhaustive list but should hopefully give you some guidance on how to avoid falling in love, or at least help you not fall in love in a hurry.

Treasure your 'Myspace'. What does this mean? Keep your personal information personal. Particularly avoid sharing important personal information if it provokes deep feelings in you. Obviously, the world we live in today is such a social village that everyone's business is on Facebook and Twitter. However, you do have a few personal secrets no one else knows.

You know how you've been hurt in the past. You know what memories of your past or childhood make you vulnerable. Only you know how you want to be loved. These are personal to you and should not be shared if you want to avoid falling in love.

Sharing these sort of details early on in a relationship is very likely to result in empathy, which consequently could create a bond between parties. When I was single, there was one guy who was so crazy about me, he would sometimes literally be in tears when telling me about somethings in his life and how he really needs me. I on the other hand knew I did not want anything other than friendship from him and so even though I had sympathy for him, I did not let it translate to any other kind of intimate feeling. Imagine if I allowed his emotions get to me and I started thinking about him, eventually, I would have been bonded to him and maybe fallen in love with him - all be it out of pity.

Which brings me to my next point. Sometimes, by virtue of being very open about yourself and talking about your hurts too early in a relationship, you could make the other party fall in love with you for the wrong reasons - out of pity. And this really does not last, unfortunately.

That's all on today's post - 'Treasure your 'Myspace'

Next time, we'll be talking about fantasies - don't we all just love to fantasise!

Catch you later and God bless!


Sarah