It’s only January, but I tell you everyone who’s in a relationship is already counting down to the 14th of February when traditionally, Valentine’s day is celebrated. It is a day many ladies look forward to and most guys dread - mainly because when it comes to deciding what gift to get, they are often at a loss. There is often a silent, almost subtle build up to valentine, with both parties secretly expecting a romantic surprise on the day. There is also often an amount of suppressed tension, as each party tries to get the perfect gift or treat for their partner, or organize a special meal or outing to blow their minds away!.
So in the build up to Valentine, what are the key things to consider? Here are a few tips
First, don’t have unrealistic expectations. It is easy to dream up fantastic things we expect our partners to do for us. Expect the best, but be realistic. If your partner is not into hot air balloon rides, for example, it is highly unlikely that that will be your valentine’s treat - unless you probably drop the hint.
Secondly, have a plan to give. Love is not a one sided coin. As much as you expect to receive something for Valentine, you should also have a plan to give something back - no matter how small. Love is about sharing. You could even give to charity on behalf of your partner. That way you will both be doing something for a good cause and showing love in its truest form
The next point is something very dear to my heart. Statistics have shown that Valentine season and Christmas are two of the main periods when young people are most sexually active. If you’re single and in a relationship, don’t use Valentine as an excuse to go all the way. Even as you get excited about expressing your love for each other on that special day, don’t allow yourself get carried away. There is more to a relationship than what happens on Valentine.
Finally, see the big picture. However the day goes for you on the 14th of February, regardless of whether it’s a flop or a fab day, see beyond Valentine. He may not have bought the perfect gift and she may not have got you a gift at all, but don’t let it destroy what you have. It’s supposed to be a means to an end - the end being you showing someone else that you love and care about them - and not the end itself. Don’t limit your expression of love for each other to Valentine alone. We shouldn't wait until the 14th of February to exchange gifts or give each other pleasant surprises. We ought to make the art of doing something special for our partners a constant element of your relationships.
And for my friends who may not have someone special to share the day with, remember this - you are special! Buy yourself a gift, give yourself a treat! You can only love your neighbour as much as you love yourself, so why not love yourself for a change?
Smile, because everything is gonna be Just Fine! Shalom!
